Baby steps towards getting into meditation. (Includes guide.)
Running from our inner conversations holds us trapped where we don’t want to be.
The conscious and in-depth conversations with myself have been one of my most precious accomplishments of the last ten years.
It might sound weird and crazy to you, but it’s not, by far! Bear with me here.
Have you ever sat down to talk to you, really listen to you and continue a conversation like when you are with someone you honestly enjoy talking with?
Probably not.
The reality is that, possibly, after 20 seconds, you caught yourself talking to the mirror or alone in the car, and you judged yourself.
The most common reaction is saying or thinking, “What am I doing? I am losing my mind; I am talking to myself!” or “OMG! What would people think if they saw me talking to myself?”
And then, we stop and move to occupy our minds with something more “productive.”
We keep running from our inner conversations as if they were evil or something. Instead, we prefer the supposedly most productive approach.
We either go back to the past and dive into thinking about things we cannot change, or deviate us from manifesting what we truly want to experience in life. Or we jump into the future, and we start planning in our minds situations, responses, and actions that at some point might become our present.
The worst part of the latter is that by doing so, we deny ourselves the opportunity to live it fully. The reason is that when it happens—if it ever happens, we are so predisposed to that we were planning that we don’t allow ourselves to experience it. All because we prepared it so much that we annul the context of it, missing at the same time the rest of the stuff that occurs in combination, and make it real! We follow a script of a future that we poorly created.
Sadly, those two are our go-toes when we are caught with ourselves. Making evident a fear to be with our thoughts, to really acknowledge what we are feeling, to give us a few minutes to reflect if whatever we are experiencing is something that we want or if we are just following the herd. This behaviour and decision keep us in a status quo that we didn’t even choose.
Running from our inner conversations tends to hold us trapped where we don’t want to be.
We need these moments with ourselves. They are precious for manifesting because they guide us. The absence of a connection with our true self leaves us in the passenger seat of our lives, instead of driving and creating a life we love living.
How to break free.
For some, the conversation might not flow as when we are with a friend at a Cafe, but don’t despair.
The goal is to listen to yourself, and many times, the language varies. Images that are not from the past or the predictive future might pop into your mind and look more like imagination. You may be aware of specific parts or aches in your body, and you can even be suddenly conscious of emotions. The path of each individual is different.
The purpose is to stay. Do not run the premade program that, as soon as you are with yourself, sends you back and forth, blocking any real recognition of your present and surroundings.
If your brain is so busy that you can’t even stop the thoughts, I have been there. Focus on what you are seeing or listening to. Do it for ten deep breaths, and that will start slowing down your mind. Then you can adventure into listening to yourself.
Pretty much everyone teaching self-mastery and personal evolution is going to recommend meditation, and I do too. However, I discovered that listening to myself was a very nice baby step before going deep into calming the mind.
Let’s stop running from ourselves.